“KITTENISH” is the second track on MEG’s 2008 album STEP.
I’m 25 and gay. Do I think gays should be allowed to get married? Fuck no. Do I think most gay men are capable of a marriage? Fuck no.
If you would have asked me the questions above 3 years ago, my answers would have been vastly different.
I’ve been married before, and I’ve done my fair share of talking to guys all over about the subject. Generally, most guys that I’ve talked to have been all aboard for it, and really want to be able to get married to another dude. Cool, whatever.
So, here is where I begin my argument. Two guys cannot get married, and expect it to last, because— It will last a few months/weeks/years and then be over.
There are so many guys that I know are ALREADY in relationships they claim to be monogamous, yet, are constantly looking for someone else. Whether it be at a bar, club, dating website, app, whatever… It’s prevalent in the gay community. You’d have to be borderline brain dead to not know that gay guys do the hookup thing all the time, and they look for it constantly. You know who you are. I’m no different. I’m guilty, I’ve done the same thing before too.
I can’t speak much for women, I don’t like lesbians. I don’t know any either, but… gay men are not in it for the long run. I can tell you that.
Marriage is supposed to be a life long thing, you know, till death do us part…
The way that most guys I know treat relationships, is like they are treating it as just an arrangement, almost trying to just 1-up each previous guy. Just to see what happens and roll with it… You can’t treat marriage like that. I seriously doubt most guys truly look at the big picture before jumping into it.
Take a look at any gay community, in any larger city, in any state. They all share the same things. Guys who all date each other, have hooked up with each other, and probably a VERY small number of gay couples who have been together a long time, say… more than 10+ years. I would love to do a survey on this.
Gay guys can’t handle marriage. Plain and simple. It’s not for them/us/whatever. After seeing how gay culture has been in the past 10 years, I don’t know if I even want to identify with that word anymore. At times, I seriously ponder switching teams. It’s like the attitudes and types of guys I’ve encountered have almost put me back on women. Yeah, the sex was fun, but these guys aren’t capable of holding a long lasting relationship, and that’s what I want. I look at a lot of married straight couples and I admit, I do get jealous. I know a lot more straight couples who have been married a long time. Despite their hardships and whatever they’ve faced, it seems like they still grin and bear it.
My marriage lasted approx. 90 days and then it was over. During that time, of course I believed and truly wanted to spend the rest of my life with the guy. Sadly, that was not on his agenda. Within one month, I already saw he was browsing Craigslist again, looking for the next guy to suck off.
Now, I know what you may be thinking, this guy is just bitter about his failed marriage and now is against the whole thing. Maybe… Maybe I’m just speaking from experience.
If gay guys are ever allowed to get married all over the US… then I think I’m going to enter law school to become a divorce lawyer. By the time I’m done with all of that, many of those marriages will have fizzled out and they will be in need of a good divorce lawyer.